Staying Socially Active While Social Distancing

Caitlin Burns

“Extroverts crave external stimulation,” said Dr. Marianne Miserandino, professor of Psychology at Arcadia University. “Another word for extroversion that we’re using in personality psychology is called ‘surgency,’ which means ‘surging into the social world.’ That’s what extroverts like to do: Go into the world and see people and do new, interesting, unusual activities.”

Dr. Miserandino in her office with bookcase behind and desk to right
As the number of those affected by the novel coronavirus continues to increase daily and state governments issue stay-at-home warnings, it can be increasingly difficult for individuals with extroverted personalities to find stimulation. Dr. Miserandino notes that extroverts need to be creative about their social interactions.

She recommends practicing social distancing with digital social activity, such as virtual happy hours, purposeful social media use, and interactive webinars with friends. She said the biggest challenge for her was getting over the mental “bump” of virtual activity not being socially engaging. 

“You’re not going to be able to hug, you’re not going to be able to be in the same room as somebody, so that’s been preventing me from reaching out,” said Dr. Miserandino. “Once I made up my mind that yeah, it’s not going to be the same, but maybe I can get something I need out of these new formats, then I jumped to the other side. The hardest part for me was getting over the bump of ‘it’s not the same.’”

The difference between extroversion and introversion isn’t black and white, but rather a spectrum for personality. For those who are more extroverted, Dr. Miserandino recommends scheduling plans—virtually for the short term and in-person for undated long term; creating a daily schedule that isn’t repetitive; and planning something for when self-isolation ends to generate anticipation.

What is Extroversion?

According to Psychology Today, "Extroversion, as a personality trait, was first proposed by noted psychiatrist Carl Jung in the 1920s. The term generally refers to a state of being where someone “recharges,” or draws energy, from being with other people, as opposed to from being alone, which has become known as introversion."

“My husband and I, over coffee in the morning, decide on one thing to do that day,” said Dr. Miserandino. “Sometimes it’s something like ‘at five o’clock, let’s call so-and-so,’ or we plan to do some kind of activity. Extroverts are very sensitive to this anticipation; part of the fun is thinking about it coming on the horizon.”

Instead of meeting in groups, she encourages people to practice the six-feet rule when outside and use buffers to keep from spreading COVID-19, such as sitting in driveways across a street from each other, and to continue to practice social distancing and follow the stay-at-home order.

For more information on COVID-19 and the University’s response, visit arcadia.edu/coronavirus.

Resources

People who identify as extroverts tend to search for novel experiences and social connections that allow them to interact with other individuals as much as possible. Gaining a better understanding of personality type can help an individual choose a career, manage relationships, and recognize their own strengths and weaknesses. 

Extroversion

Introversion is a basic personality style characterized by a preference for subdued and solitary experiences. Introverts do not fear or dislike others, and they are neither shy nor plagued by loneliness. They derive more pleasure from their own inner life than by social events.

Introversion

Introversion is one of the most misunderstood dimensions of personality. Learn about what introversion does or does not mean on the personality spectrum.

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